Exercise and the Spirit

Yesterday I touched on what's for breakfast, and how I lack the desire to exercise, and have difficulty controlling what I eat.

Last night we ordered from two take out places (see below) because it was Friday, and we couldn't all agree on one place to eat.

I got chinese, and my fortune from the fortune cookie was particularly interesting....

"To exercise the body is to purify the soul."

If I choose to believe that statement is true (which I do) I have achieved the wanting to exercise that I didn't have before. I will substitute spirit for soul and say to myself, to exercise the body is to purify the spirit. I want to purify my spirit. So, by some mathematical property used on that statement, I want to exercise my body.

IF 
     (to exercise the body = to purify the spirit)
AND
     (I want to purify the spirit)
THEN
     (I want to exercise the body)

So I exercised this morning. It was just a short walk around a few blocks, but it was more than I did before, and it felt good to do it, even though I had to do a #2 the whole time which made it a bit uncomfortable. (Note to self - take care of business before exercising - something a good friend once taught me which I had forgotten).

Now that I want to exercise, I just have to maintain and increase. Those are achievable goals if left open and undefined. I don't have to maintain X or increase by a factor of Y, just maintain and increase. I like open ended goals (something another good friend just talked with me about yesterday).

So, I am just left with eating "right" or better, trying to minimize the amount of unhealthy food I consume, and limit my portions. Well, I didn't limit my portions last night, and I don't know how good this food is for me, but it was all delicious. Baby steps. Here's what we ordered:

Golden Chopsticks - Chinese American
  • House Mei Fun - Extra Spicy 
    • Add Old Bay to the top of this dish for the best Chinese American cuisine I have ever eaten
  • Large Plain Lo Mein
    • The kids love the plain lo mein, and it can be reheated for lunches, so we get the large
  • Small Plain Fried Rice
    • The kids didn't go for this, this time at least
Ray's Pizzeria - Italian American
  • Ranch Fries
    • You know, the good ones with bacon, cheese, and a vat of ranch on the side
  • Boneless Wings - Barbecue
    • These came with blue cheese and celery which was actually a good combination with the barbecue
  • Chicken Finger Platter
    • For the kids
I've got half the battle mentally won, I am just left now with making the thought process a reality (get out and exercise). I will continue to work on the healthy eating process, I know Produce Junction will play a big part in that. Or maybe the Farmer's Market. Anyway, may my fortune also go with you.

"To exercise the body is to purify the spirit." .... in bed.

Better get to it ;)

What's For Breakfast?

You know that cookie crumble that it is in the center of Dairy Queen ice cream cakes? I want a bowl of that for breakfast, with whole milk and sausage on the side.

No, self, no. I mean I want a kale shake.

Exercise: is it all it is cracked up to be? Probably. Does that make me want to do it? No.

What would make me want to exercise?

Can I make me want anything?

Or do I just want it inherently?

If I want a healthy lifestyle, will I want to make sacrifices to get it? I won't want to, but I will be willing to.

So, I will sacrifice my bowl of cookie crumble. An offering to the gods of healthy living.

But I will still eat the sausage. Maybe the milk too. Baby steps.

Presence and Thought

Be present. Be here. Be now.

Do not think. Thinking is a tool, not a way of life. Being is a way of life.

What is the meaning of life and living? Five fold: to enjoy, to love, to understand, to create and to share.

I am.

I am.

I am.

I am, and I also think, on the side.

Time outs can / can't work in adulthood just as in childhood. (Circle one)

Desensitize yourself --> Lean into the things that you are most uncomfortable with.

To have a full and complete life, you need to have human connection.

Ideas are good. Plans are better. Got to make a plan (gotta do what's right).

Don't make a plan.

You can have a life more seamless. You can go with the flow more often.

Show love.

Share support.

What is the most amazing thing you have ever...
   seen?
   done?
   experienced?

It's your life. Live it.

America's Holiday Wish: Open Letter to Those with the Power to Change

Our fellow Americans,

We have reached a crossroads. We are standing on the corner wondering which direction to turn. There is traffic whizzing by. The traffic lights are out, not even blinking. Suddenly, a truck smashes into a sedan, and both drivers are left unharmed but dazed and confused as traffic continues to move quickly around the delay. We stand there and post the traffic incident to the news wire from our smartphone. We call the police, but they will be unable to respond for another hour or two due to other accidents around the city. We stand there. We are confused. We are cold and lonely. We page through our smartphone and think about leaning into that familiar distraction. But we don't want to look away this time. We decide for some reason that this time, we will look at the car wreck. Stare our issue square in the face. The times are changing. We are changing.

For the written history of mankind we have believed that forward progress and increased speed and complexity will make the world a better place. It is clear that advancements in technology, science and interdependence of systems has made life easier for many of us. But at what cost? We each lead terribly busy lives. We move quickly from one thing to the next, fulfilling obligations, taking care of business, making sure the children are cared for in one way or another. The holidays become an especially busy time, trying to cram all the buying, eating and drinking we can possibly handle into our already busting-at-the-seams lifestyle. On a larger scale, our educational system is not providing the education required for the jobs our companies are creating. Our youth are not able to find jobs easily, or are unwilling to take jobs they feel are below their stature. Experienced personnel are being replaced by entry level workers for reasons of cost alone, disenfranchising the companies of valuable resources. The political system is too busy with infighting to get necessary, important and beneficial tasks accomplished.



The truth is, we are running out of time. We can't squeeze any more "life" into our days. We are in such a rush, that we have begun to disregard other people. People who we feel are in our way or trying to slow us down. We want exactly what we want, when we want it. But our days are so full, that we rarely have time to get exactly what we want. We almost don't even know what we want any more. What do we want? If we are honest, are we pleased with all the things we have put into our days? That is a question we each need to ask ourselves. If we are not pleased, we need to change. Forward progress, increased speed and interconnected complexity are only alleviating the symptoms of our core problem. We need more time.

The good news is we can get more time. We can take more time. We can minimize our schedules and take the time we need to do the things we want. We can re-prioritize the way we live to include enough time so that we are not always rushing. Not disregarding other people in order to get to the next thing.



There is another force that we have at our disposal that can combine with time to fix our predicament. It is our most precious resource. Thankfully, it is a sustainable resource, and forever renewable. It is what keeps the engines of our hearts cranking, what makes faith, hope and progress possible. This unending force is simple, and we all have plenty of it. The force is love, and contrary to popular belief, love won't run out, it only changes. The love we have for our family doesn't have to stop at our front doors. We can love our neighbors with as much fervor as we love our children, just in a different way. Love has no hierarchical structure. Either we love someone or something, or we don't.  There is no need to compare how much we love one another.

We have created a system that rewards individuality. Our uniqueness is an important part of who we are. Each individual has an amazing capacity for nuance and differentiation. But along with all our differences and diversity, we are all the same. We all want the same things. We may have covered up our similarities with individualism, but at the center of our being we all want the same things. We all want to be happy. We all want things to be easy. We all want to be whole and love those around us.

Albert Einstein said that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. This holiday season, we would like to try something different. Let's slow down instead of speeding up. Let's take time to be able to enjoy what we really cherish in our lives: time to share our love with each other. Life is not about all the work, chores and obligations we have to do, though we do have to do those things. Life is about all the love we have to give, about loving those around us. Life is about taking time to really tell the world and ourselves that we are loved and cherished and that every. little. thing. is. going. to. be. alright. We have often forgotten that love and time can heal all wounds. With love and time, we can heal our own wounds...

America, we were once the shining beacon of the world, but have let ourselves down over the past few generations, so low we can barely cover the costs of our own mounting debt. Give us a chance to love each other again. Not just our immediate families, but our friends, neighbors and colleagues as well. Acquaintances. Strangers! Let's use love to open the key to our hearts and let others in.

We no longer need to be in such a hurry to get things done. What is meant to be done, will be done, and the rest doesn't matter yet. Take time to enjoy other's company. Strike up a conversation while in the check out lines. Chat with a stranger while taking a walk in the park.

To each of the congressmen and women, to the President and all the White House staff, to all three branches of the government, to the 1% and the 99%, to those disenfranchised by the system, and those who thrive in this country, to foreign aliens who have made America their home, whether permanently or temporarily, to EVERYONE who collects a paycheck with the words "Tax" or "In God We Trust" written on the pay stub, we want to try something different for a change this holiday season. Here are some ways we can make a difference.

Give a monetary gift to everyone before the holidays. Issue a check or wire money to everyone in America. If necessary, call back government subsidies or loans to current or former Fortune 500 companies in order to accomplish this in a timely manner. Undocumented workers can be paid from company profits. The money can be used by individuals to pay the bills, or hopefully just to get that great Christmas gift or dinner or experience that may not have been purchased without help.

No scare tactics are necessary to get the buyers in the stores this holiday season. With all this pre-holiday gift money floating around, retailers can rest assured that their books will balance without having to make people feel like they won't get a good deal if they don't knock somebody else over on the morning of Black Friday. Starting at 00:01 on Black Friday, all items would be priced and supplied so that the prices are as low as possible, while still covering costs and helping the companies get into the black. The prices would stay low and rise incrementally back to their standard prices as supply and demand dictate. A Black Month instead of a Black Day.

Unfortunately the government shut down for a decent period of time this year. Maybe we should follow suit and close all the businesses between Christmas and New Year's. Or at least make work voluntary, and base the work schedule on those who actually do want to work during the holiday week.

Let's have that holiday week be a week of positive influence for everyone. Let's show only positive movies and stories on all the stations. The programming can be pre-formatted so the staff and engineers don't even have to be there. Our news can be devastating in it's coverage of all the negative things that are going on. Let's read that important but negative news like a monotone telegraph wire every ten minutes, without video, and focus instead on the positive changes we are making as a nation.

We find ourselves still standing at the crossroads. The traffic is whizzing by the accident and no one has come to help. We decide it is time for action. We walk over and make sure all the people are alright. They are fine and begin to exchange insurance information, while waiting for a tow truck.We look down and see a whistle around our neck. In our hand is a flashlight. We look up at the traffic light and see that it is still off. The traffic is going wild around us.

What will we do?

What can we do?

We can take our time and love and step into that intersection and start directing traffic. We can start showing the way for all the busy people who can't seem to slow down. Start showing everyone that there can be a new way that is different, that things are changing. That we are changing.



Time is on our side. We have all the time in the world to become the people we are meant to be. We just need to take it. Love is in our hearts. We have an immense capacity for love that we haven't yet tapped into. We have all the love we need, we just have to give it.

To modify what one of our wonderful songwriters wrote, : "In the caverns of tomorrow with just the flashlights of our love, we must shine, we must shine, we must shine."

Let us shine. Let us love. Let's take our time and let us, the people, come back to work for you, America.

Thoughts

Identify your feelings. Acknowledge that they exist.

"Hi, how you doin'?"

  • We rarely want the person we asked to truthfully answer that question
"Good, thanks, how you doin'?"

  • We rarely want to truthfully answer that question
BUT

We must answer these questions honestly for ourselves on a regular basis. How am I doing? What do I need to do better or differently to be doing in a way I would rather be doing?

Why is negativity a stronger force than positivity?

Why do we like to wallow?

A gratefulness log - must write something different that you are grateful for each entry, no repeats. Why no repeats? Then we can start to become thankful for each and every little thing and experience in our lives. The goal is really to be thankful for every thing we have in our lives, not taking anything for granted.

"Successful people in life often become more successful because they are constantly thinking of their successes."

Define your own version of success.