HTK
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How To Kick
How To Kick Intervention
- Show only LOVE, there is no need for harsh words or threats. If a person is resistant, they are just not ready yet. Be satisfied with the fact that you have planted a seed, and revisit that individual later.
- At least three people are required to perform HTK:
- A DOER: The person who will be posing the questions to the "DONER"
- A DONER: The person who will be answering the questions for HTK
- A WITNESS or AUDIENCE: A third independent party who will just stand by and experience what is happening.
- Everything else here is performed from the perspective of the DOER to the DONER.
DOER: Would you do me a favor?
DONER: Sure.
DOER: Sit down.
DOER offers a chair
DONER: Okay.
DONER sits down.
DOER: Do me another favor?
DONER: Sure.
DOER: Relax. That's right just lean back and get comfortable.
DONER leans back and gets comfortable
DOER: Do me one more favor?
DONER: Okay.
DOER: Know and trust that the conversation I am about to have with you is based in love and compassion. No matter how difficult or strange it may get, I am doing this because I love you and want the best for you and our families.
DONER: Okay.
DOER: Alright, you did me three favors, now let me do you a favor. Are you awake?
DONER: Sure.
DOER: Sit down.
DOER offers a chair
DONER: Okay.
DONER sits down.
DOER: Do me another favor?
DONER: Sure.
DOER: Relax. That's right just lean back and get comfortable.
DONER leans back and gets comfortable
DOER: Do me one more favor?
DONER: Okay.
DOER: Know and trust that the conversation I am about to have with you is based in love and compassion. No matter how difficult or strange it may get, I am doing this because I love you and want the best for you and our families.
DONER: Okay.
DOER: Alright, you did me three favors, now let me do you a favor. Are you awake?
DONER: Yes, I'm awake.
DOER: If you are already awake we may not need to have this conversation. But I would like to proceed anyway, just to be sure. Is it alright with you if we continue?
DONER: Sure.
DOER: Have you ever been hypnotized?
DONER: Sure.
DOER: Have you ever been hypnotized?
DONER: Maybe.
DOER: Well, you're hypnotized now.
DONER: No I'm not.
DOER: Sure you are, touch your nose.
DONER looks at DOER incredulously.
DOER: See?
DONER: What do you mean, "see"? I'm not hypnotized.
DOER: Sure you are. You've hypnotized yourself. You are hypnotizing yourself right now. You told yourself not to touch your nose and you listened.
DONER: Okay....
DOER: There are three entities inside of you, and one of them has the other two hypnotized.
DONER: You are weird. This is weird.
DOER: You consist of three entities. I like to call them me, myself and I. Me is the thinking sentient being that is spirit and what many people call the soul. But it is not something separate from you that can be taken or removed at any point. It is you. It is being.
DONER: I don't believe in spirits and souls.
DOER: It doesn't matter what you believe, it only matters if it is true. The myself part of you is your role here on earth, what you came here to do, your purpose. Many people have found their purpose and are completely satisfied with what they are doing. Many others are still searching. Where do you stand?
DONER: I am still searching.
DOER: Well, your search is over. I will show you in a little while. The I portion of you is your ego. Your ego is hypnotizing your me and myself. Our society has placed ego in charge of ruling the world, and ego has done a very poor job. Nevertheless, we continue to place ego first in most situations. If you want to learn more about how to break ego's power over you, you can find solutions through meditation and Eckhart Tolle's books, but there are sources everywhere.
DONER: I don't read.
DOER: Then just look to nature. It provides all the teaching you will need.
DONER: I don't go outside.
DOER: Then close your eyes. You have all the teaching you will need. You are here for one primary purpose.
DONER: What is that purpose?
DOER: To wake up.
DONER: I already am awake.
DOER: To awaken spiritually. To be enlightened. To put an end to suffering. You can do it. Everyone can do it.
DONER: I am not a spiritual person.
DOER: Sure you are. All people are spiritual people. That doesn't mean you have to join a church or be converted to this or that religion. You are spiritual inherently. I want you to try something with me to help you see the difference between your ego and your being. Would you be willing to do that?
DONER: Okay.
DOER: I want you to visualize all the thoughts in your head as objects. You can pretend they are each snowflakes, and they are blowing around you. I want you to think of all the thoughts you are having right now, and start to move those snowflakes around and around in a circle, like a little thought tornado. Are you with me?
DONER: I am having trouble concentrating.
DOER: That is okay, just do your best, that's all I'm asking. Do your best. All your thoughts, all your troubles, everything you can think of, just move them freely around your head as snowflakes. Those thought snowflakes are the food for the ego. The ego loves it when you think, especially when you think of negative things. Now I want you to build up the speed of this thought tornado. Think of the thoughts going faster and faster and they are starting to get a little out of control. When you have had enough I want you to shout "STOP!" and I want you to imagine all the thought objects blowing away from you, completely out of sight. The louder you shout the more effective this will be. Are you ready?
DONER: Yes.
DOER: Okay go for it, whenever you are ready.
DONER: STOP!
Pause and wait until DONER opens eyes.
DOER: The space you had in your mind between shouting "STOP!" and the first thought that came to you: That is being, that is spirit, that is the me I am talking about. Being is you, and you are being. The thoughts you pictured as snowflakes are not your true essence. Many times, the thoughts you have, especially the negative thoughts, all belong to the ego, or I portion of you. I will not talk too much about ego, because you know him or her well. You are not ego. Ego in fact is not a part of you, but an alien that has invaded your being. We have become so attached to the thought process of our brain that we have allowed it to convince us that we are the thought process. We are not. We are being.
DONER: I don't get it.
DOER: That's okay. You don't have to get it. I have given you a tiny experience of what you really are, and shared with you the primary purpose of your existence. What is that primary purpose again?
DONER: I don't remember.
DOER: To wake up. To become enlightened. To put an end to suffering. And all you need to do to have that happen is to recognize that you are being, not your thoughts or even your feelings. A spiritual quest for enlightenment may ensue, and all of that work will center around being being more and more often, until you are only being, and everything else you think, feel, perceive and know are just tools and experiences.
DONER: Tools?
DOER: Tools. To help you and others on the journey. The journey of life. Now, we have discussed the difference between me and I, between being and the ego. The third portion to discuss is myself. Do you know yourself?
DONER: I like to think so.
DOER: Do you like yourself?
DONER: I like parts of myself.
DOER: Your self portion of you is all based on your secondary purpose for being here on earth. What you came here to do. What you came here to become. Do you know what your secondary purpose is?
DONER: To get an education, get a job, get married, have kids and retire.
DOER: That is all stuff for the ego. When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
DONER states what he/she wanted to be as a child.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DOER: That is beautiful. What happened?
DONER tells what happened.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DOER: What did you want to be in high school?
DONER tells what he/she wanted to be in high school.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DOER: That is wonderful. What happened?
DONER tells what happened.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DOER: I want to give you an opportunity now to start over. If you won the lottery tomorrow, but you still had to work in order to keep the lottery money coming in, what would you do?
DONER tells what he/she would do.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DOER: That is great. I want you to be able to expand on that some more. I am going to ask you a series of questions that will help you clarify more for yourself what it is that you truly want out of life, and what your secondary purpose is. Please answer the questions as if there were no limit to what you could have. Everything you've always wanted. I am going to write your answers on this whiteboard. Are you ready?
DONER proceeds to answer the following questions:
DONER: Okay.
DOER: I want you to visualize all the thoughts in your head as objects. You can pretend they are each snowflakes, and they are blowing around you. I want you to think of all the thoughts you are having right now, and start to move those snowflakes around and around in a circle, like a little thought tornado. Are you with me?
DONER: I am having trouble concentrating.
DOER: That is okay, just do your best, that's all I'm asking. Do your best. All your thoughts, all your troubles, everything you can think of, just move them freely around your head as snowflakes. Those thought snowflakes are the food for the ego. The ego loves it when you think, especially when you think of negative things. Now I want you to build up the speed of this thought tornado. Think of the thoughts going faster and faster and they are starting to get a little out of control. When you have had enough I want you to shout "STOP!" and I want you to imagine all the thought objects blowing away from you, completely out of sight. The louder you shout the more effective this will be. Are you ready?
DONER: Yes.
DOER: Okay go for it, whenever you are ready.
DONER: STOP!
Pause and wait until DONER opens eyes.
DOER: The space you had in your mind between shouting "STOP!" and the first thought that came to you: That is being, that is spirit, that is the me I am talking about. Being is you, and you are being. The thoughts you pictured as snowflakes are not your true essence. Many times, the thoughts you have, especially the negative thoughts, all belong to the ego, or I portion of you. I will not talk too much about ego, because you know him or her well. You are not ego. Ego in fact is not a part of you, but an alien that has invaded your being. We have become so attached to the thought process of our brain that we have allowed it to convince us that we are the thought process. We are not. We are being.
DONER: I don't get it.
DOER: That's okay. You don't have to get it. I have given you a tiny experience of what you really are, and shared with you the primary purpose of your existence. What is that primary purpose again?
DONER: I don't remember.
DOER: To wake up. To become enlightened. To put an end to suffering. And all you need to do to have that happen is to recognize that you are being, not your thoughts or even your feelings. A spiritual quest for enlightenment may ensue, and all of that work will center around being being more and more often, until you are only being, and everything else you think, feel, perceive and know are just tools and experiences.
DONER: Tools?
DOER: Tools. To help you and others on the journey. The journey of life. Now, we have discussed the difference between me and I, between being and the ego. The third portion to discuss is myself. Do you know yourself?
DONER: I like to think so.
DOER: Do you like yourself?
DONER: I like parts of myself.
DOER: Your self portion of you is all based on your secondary purpose for being here on earth. What you came here to do. What you came here to become. Do you know what your secondary purpose is?
DONER: To get an education, get a job, get married, have kids and retire.
DOER: That is all stuff for the ego. When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
DONER states what he/she wanted to be as a child.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DOER: That is beautiful. What happened?
DONER tells what happened.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DONER tells what he/she wanted to be in high school.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DONER tells what happened.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DONER tells what he/she would do.
Insert your answer here:_________________________
DOER: That is great. I want you to be able to expand on that some more. I am going to ask you a series of questions that will help you clarify more for yourself what it is that you truly want out of life, and what your secondary purpose is. Please answer the questions as if there were no limit to what you could have. Everything you've always wanted. I am going to write your answers on this whiteboard. Are you ready?
DONER proceeds to answer the following questions:
- What do you want for the world?
- What do you want for your family? (define family however you want)
- What do you want for yourself?
- What are you passionate about? (Why do you get up in the morning? Describe)
- Who is your love? (Who do you wake up to each morning? Describe)
- What are your talents? (What are you naturally good at? Describe)
- What skills do you have? What skills do you want?
- What do you do to give back to society/mankind?
- What do you like to do for fun? (What is your hobby?)
DOER: Okay now we have all these things written out here. You have defined for yourself to the best of your ability what your secondary purpose is in life. May I take a picture of the whiteboard? Thanks. Now I want to make a deal with you. I know someone who has kept you from becoming this person. And I also know someone who can help make you this person. The people I am referring to have agreed to try and stop preventing you from becoming who you are, and to try to help you become the person you are meant to become. Do you want to meet these people?
DONER: Okay.
DOER holds up a mirror to the DONER.
DOER: You are your own maker. You have put yourself in this situation and you can get yourself out of it as well. You can make all your dreams come true. All you have to do is do your best and strive every day to become the person you truly want to be. If you want, I can follow up with you and check in to see how you are doing in a few months. I took a picture of your whiteboard, here is a copy. I will get in touch with you in a few months to see how you are progressing on the road to becoming yourself.
I am compiling lots of tools and information at nobushel.blogspot.com so feel free to visit the website and use whatever may be helpful on your journey.
Thank you for your time.
DONER: Thanks I guess. Good bye (weirdo).
DOER: Good bye!
